Break Up With Your Past

When is enough enough? When should you forget the past & move on. I’m not just talking about the past 5 months, 3 years or even 6 years. I’m talking about the past 10/20 years! When should you forget what that person did in middle school or high school, the so called friends, the guy who you thought wouldn’t break you, how you were treated, what happened & what you went through.

As you can probably tell my life hasn’t really been the easiest, but I wouldn’t trade it. All of the experiences I’ve had has shaped me to who I am today. It’s made me this strong amazing person. But I’ve had my ups & downs just like everyone else.

But when is it time to break up with your past, to forget what happened & forgive/forget the people who hurt you? When is it time to not judge someone you knew in high school by who they hung out with & the jokes they used to play on you. I still remember walking down the hall & getting made fun of (ways I’m not ready to tell). Telling myself not to let them see me cry, it will only fuel them.

But, should be we just move on. Forgive them because they were young & immature? Hope they actually did change? Be nice, because let’s face it, that’s who you are. You are the nice one with the big heart who gives everyone the benefit of the doubt.

Forgive the guy who broke your heart, because he taught you not to trust everyone who says nice things to you. Forgive him because even after all the lies, he taught you things about yourself you didn’t know. Forgive the friend(s) who stabbed you in the back multiple times because it was just fun for them.

I believe that no matter what, these things will always stay with you. However, you need to move on, because it’s healthy for you. You need to see them as lessons, take something away from what happened, & grow. No one is ever going to be 100% honest with you. People are dishonest & will do things to either make them look good or tell you what they think you want to hear. You have to be confident in yourself to move on from toxic situations/people.

It’s time. It’s time to move on & break up with your past. It’s just that, your past. You need to look forward to the future. Bury the past and keep it there. It’s only going to hurt you more. It’s hard, trust me I know. But it’s necessary.

~SVD